Wednesday, April 11, 2007

The Real Story

Okla, I share the 2 incidents here :

Incident 1

Anastassia is in her school Choral Speaking. Last week competition peringkat Zone, they lost and hanya dapat no2. So for the first time in 5-6 years, mereka GAGAL untuk ke peringkat Kebangsaan. (Lepas peringkat Zon, ada competition peringkat Negeri lagi)

We are not sore loosers. Tapi we know for a fact that our school was the best. In fact, when all 15 schools performed, our school was actually in a different league. They were far way better in every aspect, pronunciation, movement, coordination. They were so great that unlike other teams yang dapat tepukan at the end of their performance, our school dapat tepukan SEPANJANG persembahan.

  1. We sent a letter of complaint to PPD and Jabatan with a CD as proof, comparing the school that won and our school. Performance wise, nampak sangat our school yang patut menang.
  2. The fact that the Head Judge had a grudge against us. And nampak clearly the judges conferred during the performance, which is against the judging regulation.
  3. And Head Judge ini juga guru Choral Speaking sekolah dia, in which our school always beat her school every year to be no1 in the state. So nampaknya with our school out of the way, sekolah Head Judge ni boleh la dapat no1. Pandai tak STRATEGY dia?

And yang kelakarnya, the school yg dapat no 1 tu actually USED our script that we created and used in 2004 (or 2003). Tapi the judge pulak boleh condemn yg our school pun pakai script lama.... padahal our script tu mmg our teachers create 2-3 months ago!

Nak pronounce the word "father" and "mother" pun tergeliat jadi "pade" and "ma-de", boleh pulak dapat no1. Huh!



Incident 2

This incident dah selesai. I have met with the school and they have assured me that they will monitor the situation. Nak tau cerita dia?

Mia was physically attacked by another Form 1 and this was done WITHOUT any provocation on Mia's part. Mia was punched and kicked bertubi2.

The attacker was lucky that Mia tak defend or balas. As Mia said "kalau tak, teruk budak tu kena, mama..."

Mia was just a month away from her Black Belt grading when she stopped her Taekwondo lessons (for the time being), so you can guess her strength. Dia practice sparring pun dgn secondary boys, and Mia also pernah wakil Negeri in Taekwondo. But then budak yg attack tu pun ada Yellow belt Taekwondo, so dia tau basic attacking, so sure sakit kan. Tapi Mia tetap keep still bila ditumbuk dan ditendang bertubi2.

Ada few other girls pun kena pukul dgn this girl, but Mia yg kena paling teruk. Pada I, this girl nak lepaskan frustration with her family problems. She is crying out for help, in a way.

I thank the school for its fast action. And buat masa ni, Helena anggap perkara ini telah diselesaikan.

33 comments:

rose said...

Patutla skolah Head Judge leh menang..dah mmg dia yg judge competition tu..kui kui kui..tak ke obvious sgt tu berat sebelah..huhu..

Kesiannya Mia..mcm2 kan budak2 skang ni..semua nak tunjuk samseng..yg tumbuk Mia tu girl jugak ke kak helena? tapi either boy or girl..tak patutla nak punch and kick kawan2 seangkatan yg sama2 datang ke sekolah nak timba ilmu..ntahla..tak faham betui laa budak2 skang nih...hmmm....

NBB said...

cayalah Mia. macho..

Helena said...

rose : entah apa2 kan tak professional langsung. A simple thing as fair judging pun takleh buat, sibuk pulak dgn cluster schools.

Yang tumbuk Mia tu girl

nbb : hehe, macho ke Mia tu. In person dia nampak lembut aje.... nampak macam type lembik2 je...

kc said...

helena, just wondering how u take this all? i mean with yr girl got beaten up and some more she didn't fight back and took it all in her stride..she must be one heck of a girl! bravo mia!

if my kids got beaten up that way, i'll be the one singsing my lengan baju. fuhh...dont dare challenge one hot mama right now...hehe

and i thought this kind of things only happen in the movies - girls bullying girls!

helena said...

kc : Helena memang kesiankan Mia, and I knew she was angry and sakit bila kena punched and kicked.

But both Mia and me tau how to handle injuries, have to learn la sebab Mia was active in taekwondo. And dalam kes ni, the injury is not visible. (not visible by the time I got to know/jumpa dia 5 days after the attack) Although Mia kata sakit sangat, tapi when I suruh dia compare sakit masa competition taekwondo, dia kata masa competition lagi sakit. So at least she's ok there.

One thing about Mia, she's responsible with her ability in taekwondo. Itu sbb dia tak do anything, knowing that the other girl nanti suffer.

And Mia mmg pemaaf orangnya, tak pendendam. So after ada one-to-one session between the girl, HEM and semua girls yang jadi victim, they are already friends like before. Mia mmg macam tu, orang buat dia macamana pun, dia tak melawan and kalau dia marah pun, marah sekejap aje.

hehe kc, Helena pun kena tahan sabar ni if jumpa budak tu nanti. Yela, they will be in the same dorm sampai akhir tahun, tak elokla if Helena nak main jeling2. I respect Mia's wishes "Its settled mama. Pls dont do anything" But she okayed my having a chat with the school HEM.

oh ya.... if the same thing happened to another child of mine (belajar taekwondo tapi tak pernah masuk competition), I would obviously handle it differently. Anastassia and Puteri is the cikeding type, so cannot imaginela if dia kena bully physically. Memang singsing lengan baju kut.... hehe

Eh dont get me wrong. Bukannya I lebih kurang dgn hal Mia, its just that.... macam ni la.... She is STRONG. She can kalahkan I ANYTIME. Kalau dia arm lock I, confirm I takleh gerak langsung. (or is it I yg lembek???? hehe)

maklang said...

takut pulak bila baca pasal pukul2 ni...

Kak Elle said...

helena I am shocked!!about everything.My hug to both girls.

MINAH CELOTEH said...

A'salam...ni nak tumpang sibuk2 ni.

How can that Head judge be the Head Judge when her school also competing. Tentu2 dia menangkan sekolah dia. Belum menang dah kira kes tak adil.

Helena said...

maklang : tak sangka boleh terjadi kat Mia....

kak elle : thx. Now anxious to know whether complaint and rayuan on the competition diterima. Anastasia dah give up, tapi Helena masih berharap.

minah : nampak sangat ada orang buat keje bangang kan?

goboklama said...

itula politik namanya,sakit hati kan? syian ke Mia,good girl being patient to all that.

ruby ahmad said...

Dear Helena,

I am not in the loop, so sorry. Oh was there a competition? Goodness gracious me. I think there must be integrity in judgement. People can't be taken for fools, as we would know what is good and what is not. So sad that a school that is performing get sidelined like this.

Gosh! Mia was hurt? I hope this has been highlighted to the school head. I was helping a parent the other day re:form 4 girl. Seem to be under control..fingers crossed. Mail to me if you need any help, whatever that I can do within my jurisdiction. Upsetting such state of affair. Was not like this before. Keep a close tab on her dear and give her the necessary encouragement and backing to handle this sticky matter.

zino said...

helena..
mana aci judge ada kepentingan.. tak adil le macam tu..

Kak Lady said...

Seb baik tak de apa2 yang serius kan...hehehhe...macam2 hal bebudak sekarang...membimbangkan kita aje...

wan said...

Mia is so cool, behaves like an adult.

p/s: ada juga head judge camtu eh?

loveujordan said...

Competition pun ada politik...tak fahamlah...penat perform yang terbaik alih-alih sekolah lain menang....

Apa nak jadi..girl gangster at school..sian lah anak you. Buatlah sesuatu segera...

Darling said...

dasyat2 budak sekarang ni kan. ingatkan kalau gal tak ada le jadi kes macam tu.

kalau mia ada taekwondo sure dia tahu mcmana nak defend diri sendiri so boleh le kurangkan sakit sikit.

kalau yang serang tu lelaki, serang je "part" tu. sure tak boleh nak lawan balik. hihi.. ni cikgu taekwon-do i yg ajar dulu. tapi kalau panik, tak boleh nak buat apa gak.

ps: walaupun i pemegang blackbelt - taekwon-do tp ada something yg i regret till now. now i dah blaja jadi lebih 'alert', jgn cepat panik & berhati2 dengan sesiapa pun..

sya said...

Tak semua anak-anak dr keluarga yg berpecah abusive. My children bukan kaki pukul and i think ramai lagik single parents yg can testify to that.

Kat sekolah Arif.. anak yg ada kedua-dua parents yg membuli budak lain.

NBK466 said...

Hish..peringkat sekolah pun 'rasuah' (salah guna kuasa) telah terbukti..camner ler bangsa nak maju... Geramnya Mia kena attach.. den pun dulu belajaq TKD (WTF) tapi lepas SPM (2nd blue belt) tak sambung..siap jadi president WTF lagi.. Tapi kalau Mia balas..lebih panjang cerintanya kot..kalau kes dlm kaw sekolah ler..

Helena said...

Goboklama : mmg sakit hati. SAKIT sangat2. Hopefully Mia tak kena lagi.

Ruby : well sadly to say. Thats how they think they can treat us. like fools. Its more than a week now, no investigation done whatsoever!

Thanks for the offer. Mia is home now. She says that everything is just fine. I"ll have a heart-to-heart-talk with her tomorrow. need to really know her thoughts on this.

zino : eh aci apa? hehe... org lain kata aci, so what to do?

kak lady : Helena mmg risau... yela dia kat sana, kita kat sini...

wan : Mia tu cool pun ada, couldnt care less pun ada... hehe. Confirm ada judge camtu.... buat malu aje...

darling : oh you pun black belt ye? Apa yg you regret tu? Mia mmg dah belajar how to stop male attacker. Dia tau part mana nak tendang .... hehe... kat leher and kepala pun dia tau which part yg sensitive... ada dia ajar Helena dulu, tapi Helena dah lupa la....

sya : eh of course, i ada ramai frens yg single mother, anak2 mereka semua okay dan menjadi. Infact ada yg I jadikan contoh pada Mia. Sorry kalau dalam bersemangat I nak bercerita, ada words I yg menyinggung perasaan single parents.

Tapi dalam hal Mia, budak tu mmg ada problem. Memang known fact. And mmg semua tau, she will become aggressive everytime ada problem dgn family dia. Cuma it was never to the point of punching and kicking before....

Ala sya, CK yang kuat PHD terhadp my kids and I tu, BOTH anak, kaki buli tahap max. Ada both parents tu. Mak housewife, ayah cikgu. So, mmgla, kaki buli bukan kira berapa org parents you.

Sorry ye Sya, never meant for it to sound that way.

nbk : dalam kawasan sekolah pun. Wow jadi pengerusi... boleh tahan ye..... you blue two ye? anastasia akan ambik grading blue two next month.

D said...

HaHaHa!!! I used to be the teacher in charge of choral speaking and the practices were exhausting for the kids. tell me, which school was it, what's that dumbo judge's name and who was the greater dumbo to rule out ethics by allowing the earlier dumbo to be a judge? Heheheh... marrrah ni! buat rosak nama cikgu English jek!! cis...

alahai, must get my kids to do martial arts now. The world is such a nasty place. My greatest respect to your daughter Mia. She's proven to do the most honourable thing: even Rasulullah was thrown stones at, and he didn't fight back. Kudos, Mia!! (make sure you relate this to her this if she doesn't read this bit..)

NJ said...

Dunia...dunia macam... macam

DJINSAKTI said...

BAKAR JER RUMAH JUDGE TUH...kurang asem.. Suruh MIA gi terjanang bontot dia ker. Djin dah hangin nih..hanginnnn

Idin said...

Hi Helena,

Sorry to hear about the two incidents. Impartial judging ... susah no?! But hey... girls bullying girls? Alamak... the same happened in my high school recently. Dulu2 my time tak depun. Juniors/seniors happy2 jer dok asrama. Alumni had to step in to help the teachers to talk & 'reach out' to the girls who obviously didn't see teachers as people who they could talk to. Asyik nak suruh score straight A's jer. Sad.... but true.

Well, you take care & well wishes the girls!

Hugs,
Ibu ( bukan Idin daaa.... tak tukar IC lagi! )

Helena said...

d : Yes, the kids trained twice daily. 15 minutes before school starts and longer after school. It was a shame to see them loose like this. Mmg marah kan....

Thx for the kind words. I'll tell Mia what you said.

nj : mmm.... tu la kan... yg kesian, it involves the kids.

djin : ha... you nak tolong buatkan ke? hehe

Idin/Ibu : thx. i believe there must be a bond between teachers and students.

sya said...

Its ok Helena.. I baca balik my comment.. alamak i sound sensitive gitu. Apa-apapun samada single parents atau tidak.. didikan dan perhatian yg penting

Darling said...

yup helena i black belt gak. cuma now dah lama stop. dulu rajin gak masuk tournament. ni dah tua so kena stop le hehehe. apa yg i regret tu biarlah rasia. uiceh mcm ct nurhaliza lak.

hihi... jgn salah attack dah le helena. ada lak orang yang mati kang.

Mama Rock said...

oops, i thot pukul memukul ni selalu happen ngan boys je...girls pun ada ya?

Helena said...

sya : No problem. Helena pun kena belajar to be sensitive to others. Semoga kita dapat didik anak kita jadi orang yang soleh dan berjaya.

darling : Mia sekarang ni dah rambang mata with all the activities in school. So kena put on hold black belt grading. Kat sekolah takdapat sambung sebab dia pilih activity lain pulak. So kena sambung tempat lama. Tapi tak tau bila boleh sambung.

mamarock : girls pun brutal jugak. Tak sangka kan. Hmm, Puteri pun masa darjah 1 selalu kena cubit dgn anak Ustazah.... kecik2 dah pandai nak buli.

cikdinz said...

pelik la helena.
memanjang ada jer kes haru kat family u.
nape heh....

Helena said...

Helena pun ada terpikir macam tu cik dinz. Tapi cikgu kat sekolah my kids (who now is a good friend of mine) beri semangat, dia kata, that is the price that my kids (and me) have to pay for being above average students. My kids mmg memanjang masuk school competitions, so banyakla ceritanya. Infact minggu ini saja, my kids ada 5 different competitions. Dok memanjang ajela Helena ambik cuti half day.

Entah la cikdinz.... kita orang kena mandi bunga ke.... hehe... Tapi kes Mia tu, entahla... dah tersurat nak terjadi kut.

Helena said...

cik dinz : nak sambung. And Helena tau benda2 ni terjadi bec I am very2 involved in my kids punya schooling and activities. Eg macam dlm choral speaking tuh. Ada 35 students take part. Parents yg tau hal irresposible and unfair judging ni hanya beberapa kerat aje. Parents lain tak tau sebenarnya.

Helena said...

cik dinz : nak sambung lagila. Puteri kena cubit masa std 1 last yr tuh, bila cikgu tanya the girl kenapa dia cubit Puteri, budak tu kata, sebab dia jeles Puteri dapat no 1 aje every time exam.

Abu Ikhlas said...

helena,

biasalah kalau hidup di malaysia ni mana ada yg adil. Sama juga cerita dgn pasukan bola nak I tu. Nampak sgt refree nerat sebelah. Biarlah nak buat cam ne. At least dia org enjoy walaupon sakit hati...hahahaha